BE YOURSELF…

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I have heard the statement “just be yourself” so many times. I have been doing the same. What about you people?

But sometimes I just wonder, is it okay to be yourself or people think that you are a jerk?
Being yourself means not to pretend or copy anyone, to be fearless of everything and everyone.

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I believe people who pretend are scared of showing their originality. What’s wrong in being one’s true self?

I have found that it is very much possible to be yourself. The people who are jerk to others or are afraid of social situations, are actually not being themselves.

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Our true self is who we really are without any fear. It is who we naturally are without the masks.

“Beauty begins the moment you try to be yourself”.
Just be yourself. Let people see the real, imperfect, magical person that you are.

With love

Pallavi❤

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Can’t Stop, Won’t Stop Comparing

“She looks so much beautiful than me.”

“Her dress is prettier than mine!”

“I am basically nothing when compared to her.”

Sound familiar? Oh, we all do this. Some do it more than others. Like it’s in our DNA. We have to compare ourselves with that other girl. Every time. We just can’t resist.

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There’s nothing wrong with comparison. We’re just praising the beauty around us, right?

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It’s all sunshine and rainbows when you are admiring other beautiful works of nature but it wreaks havoc when you praise another person and at the same time bring yourself down because you are not as good as them. You start losing your peace of mind. Once this kind of negativity creeps in, no matter how small, it damages you from within.

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There are two major things you got to keep in mind. First, you cannot be good at everything. If you are an all-rounder then congratulations honey you are truly gifted. And those of you who can barely sing, dance, paint, draw, quote Shakespeare and what not, just stop tormenting yourself. Seriously. Stop.

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If your best friend is hell of a singer and you prefer the bathroom as your stage, then don’t worry. Perhaps, it’s not for you. All you have to do is find your own thing- that one thing you are amazing at.

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Second, there is always going to be someone better than you. Okay, it’s harsh but it happens to be true.

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If not anywhere near you but there’s always going to be this one person who’s smarter, taller and prettier than you or has a life much better than yours. You will have to make peace with this.

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But there’s still one thing you can do. And that is to stop feeling bad about yourself. It does not matter how much better that other girl is. You are unique and to feel the same all it takes is to be your best possible version.

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Go on praise and admire that other girl but this time don’t bring yourself down. Don’t let comparison or anything else steal away your joy. Ever.

With love ❤

Shalu.

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WHEN YOUR FRIENDS LET YOU DOWN.

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The most hurtful and disappointing thing is when your friends let you down. It’s the time  when you  feel that everything is going wrong. Those are the ones whom you trusted the most. You believed that no matter what happens they will never cheat you or cause any harm to you. They will never get jealous of you. They are the ones to whom you don’t need to give any explanations. You can do crazy stuff with them. They will never let you down.

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But there are times when your friends do let you down. They cheat you, use you for their own benefit. There are a very few friends whom you can trust. There are times when they will not be so bothered about you, not reply any of your texts or calls.
Because of all this we people sometimes get paranoid that we are loosing our friends. We start noticing that they no longer have any time for us but they are hanging out  with others. This feeling makes us more annoyed. And although we may be justified in our anger or in our hurt, the truth is that there have probably been plenty of times when we’ve been the ones to let our friends down. We’ve been the ones who said something careless.

 

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It means forgiving when necessary, looking for the good instead of the bad, and treating them the way we’d like to be treated, the way we’ve already been treated.

With love

Pallavi❤

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DO YOU FEEL LOST OR ALONE??

Screenshot_2016-01-26-14-58-47-1Have you ever felt lost or alone? Why do people have to feel this way? What’s the point of this all? Millions of people in this world craving  for connections or for specific experiences, yet isolating themselves from everything. Some of us fighting with the exact circumstances. No mattter how pathetic you feel about the situation, you are not alone in that situation. It is your mind telling you lies that you are alone but many people can relate to you.

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The seemingly useless happening adds to something. The evening you spent enjoying with your friend,the nights you spent reading novels or magazines or thinking whether you are good or not.
Honestly, life is too short to spend at war with yourself. The biggest disappointments in life are the unnecessary expectations we make . Letting go to these needless expectations is a step to happiness. All of us do feel lonely at some point of time in life but it doesn’t mean that we are alone struggling  with it.

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You cannot find peace by avoidng life. You have to accept the changes or challenges to grow which either end up giving you what you want or teach you what the next step is. So don’t feel you are lonely because you are not alone,  have faith and accept the changes.

Till then try to stay happy because HAPPINESS IS YOU😊

With love,

Pallavi❤

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You are ENOUGH

Does it not hurt when someone calls you ugly or says that you are not good enough? Even though these are just words but they are rather painful.

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Whether you are in school, college, working or a mother of two, you can find such people everywhere who think that it’s their responsibility to constantly bring you down. They will do everything in their power to make you feel bad about yourself. You will try to ignore them and put a brave face forward. But, when you hear it enough times, there comes a weak moment and in this moment of weakness you actually start believing all of those hurtful and mean things. You begin to question yourself, “what if it’s true?”  “Maybe it’s me.” “I think I’m not good enough.”

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Well, you are not good enough and you will never be for certain people. They will always manage to find flaws in you.

You are either too dark or too pale. You are too fat or too skinny. You get asked to eat a salad or offered a sandwich accordingly. You are a tomboy or too girly. You are a flirt or too shy. You are a slut or a prude. You are too nice or you are a bitch. What is a girl supposed to do then? What is she supposed to be? Lock herself in a box and just die there when time comes? Believe me, people will criticize that too cause they are never satisfied with whatever you do or whoever you try to be.

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Then what?

You have two choices. Believe what people say about you or believe in yourself. Haven’t you heard that beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder? You are beautiful and if anyone says otherwise then the problem lies within their eyes.

 

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Yes, you are beautiful and yes, you are enough. Set up alarms if you have to or make flyers and stick them everywhere in your house. If this is what it’s going to take then so be it.

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When you doubt yourself it gives others a chance to doubt you. You are already hurting deep inside and when someone else having nothing else to do points out your so called flaws, it hurts even more. And we don’t want that. YOU don’t want that.

This is not just about being strong. This is about believing in yourself because when you do, no one can bring you down no matter how hard they try.

Don’t feed lies to yourself. You are beautiful and you are enough. Period.

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So the next time when someone says otherwise, then keep your head high, look that person in the eye and smile. Now this smile will be really powerful because it will be full of belief- a belief in yourself that you are enough.

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With love ❤

Shalu.

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Things i wish i could tell my younger self

I turned 21 this month and believe me when I say I already feel old.  I’m changing and growing up with each passing moment and maybe that’s the reason I feel full of wisdom as compared to my older self. So while basking in this “I’m-all-grown-up-now” glory, I decided to share a few words of wisdom with my 13-year old self. Only if there was a time machine!

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  1. Growing up ain’t fun.

Believe me when I say this. Enjoy being a kid as much as you can. It’s completely fine if adults don’t take you seriously or you have to do homework. At least you don’t have to worry about bills, mortgage or getting a job.

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  1. Being cool does not mean being a jerk.

You want to roll with the cool kids. I totally get it. But being mean and rude isn’t cool. And please don’t play dumb and don’t fail on purpose to be ‘like’ them. Not cool.

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  1. Be proud of who you’re.

You should embrace your true self with all the qualities and all the flaws. ‘You’ matter and not somebody’s  opinion of you.

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  1. You’re beautiful.

Kids in school can be real mean. They call you names but don’t you listen to them. They are a bunch of foul mouthed little punks. Don’t believe what those bullies say. You’re beautiful and you have an amazing heart. If those kids can’t see it, it’s their loss. Huge loss.

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  1. No, it’s not love.

Your body is changing. You are feeling what  you never felt before. Hold your horses. That jerk who treats you like dirt isn’t ‘the one’. He is definitely not your true love. It’s the hormones talking. Relax!

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  1. It’s okay if you don’t have many friends or any friends.

You’ll make friends one day. Don’t worry. Nothing’s wrong with you. You just have not met the right kind of people.

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  1. Don’t change for the world.

Because when you act or pretend to be someone you’re not, you lose your true identity somewhere in between.  Don’t you ever change to please someone as you’re amazing just the way you are.

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With love ❤

Shalu.

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#LifeHacks Thoughts you need to say Goodbye to

For significant self improvement, you need to say goodbye to these thoughts.

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When you talk to yourself,  what do you say? Do you motivate yourself with kind, empowering words like you do when you speak to your loved ones, or are they more negative? Many people attack themselves on a daily basis in their own minds, which can ruin their self confidence. Check out these thoughts that you need to say goodbye to so that you can focus on self improvement.

  • “It’s too late to do anything about it now .”

Whether you are 16 or 60, you can always change and improve. Often inner peace and strength are gained through a lifetime of learning,  and these skills can completely change your outlook on life. Remember that you are a work in progress.

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  • “None of this is my fault, it’s their fault. “

It is very easy to blame others for everything,  because you don’t have to do anything yourself. If you don’t change or improve, so more than anything,  you won’t grow. Accept responsibility for your mistakes so that you can improve your life and find happiness.

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  • ” I wish today was over”.

Sometimes you will do something that feels like a waste of time, but later turns out to be one of the best decisions you ever made . Do not wish your days away- you never know when the next amazing thing will happen. So throw yourself into experiencing  and enjoying every day.

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  • “I want to be comfortable- being uncomfortable is scary”.

Outside of the comfort zone is where great things happen. Say goodbye to this thought by taking risks and putting yourself out there will help you reach your full potential and to grow as a person.

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  • “I have lost too much to continue”.

One perspective; I have lost everything and it is awful.  Another perspective;  now I have nothing, I am truly free to try anything without the chance of losing everything.  Life is all about mind set. If you choose to be fearful your choices will be limited. Say goodbye to this thought by choosing to be strong and brave,opening up endless possibilities.

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Good luck!!

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With love ❤

Pallavi.

 

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The Pursuit of Happiness

Happy he who learns to bear what he cannot change.

Friedrich Schiller

Happiness is a mental or emotional state of well being defined by positive or pleasant emotions ranging from fulfillment to intense joy.

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 Happy he who learns to bear what cannot change is not merely a quote but a reality. When you accept the reality and start moving ahead in your life with that reality, you can become happy and mentally content with your own actions.

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 In life there are many things that might sadden you but it does not mean that you end up living a depressed life.

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Here are a few tips that will help you overcome your sadness.

  • Whenever you feel sad or depressed, try to do things that you like. it can be sleeping, reading a book, going out, listening to music, watching your favorite show on netflix or any other thing you like to do.

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  • After a period of time when you feel relaxed, accept that particular life experience which according to you was not that good. Assess your situation and start taking steps to overcome it.

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  • You had a bad experience. Try to find the good in it. Ask yourself what went wrong and most importantly what did you learn?

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  • When you start taking things in a positive way, you start feeling happy.

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So take things in a positive way, make yourself happy cos’ HAPPINESS IS YOU!

With love ,3

Pallavi.

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How to be a total girl boss

We women are complicated creatures. But whatever, we run the world. So it’s time we act like a boss too 😀

1. Know who you are.

When you know who you are, you stay authentic, real and confident. You know what you want and how to get it.

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2. Confidence will take you places.

Your self-confidence plays a major role.

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3. Be fierce.

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4. Trust your gut.

Listen to your gut more. It helps.

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5. If you wait until you’re perfect, you’ll never get anything done.

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6. You don’t need to yell and scream to get things done.

Don’t scream. Be patient.

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7. Don’t take shit from anyone. Period.

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8. Stand up for what you believe in.

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9. Don’t let a man talk shit about you or other women.

Standing up for yourself is important and so is standing up for your sisters. #SisterLove

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10. It’s okay if people don’t like you. Chances are you don’t like them either.

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Good luck and stay happy cos’ HAPPINESS IS YOU!

With love ❤

Shalu.

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Healthy Living, because your body deserves it!

Why should we take care of our bodies? Well, first of all, because our bodies are the only place we  live in for our whole life. We may find a new house or new car to replace the old one,but we can’t replace our bodies. They are our temples and for once, let’s treat them with the utmost care that they deserve.

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Eat a healthy and balanced diet. Never skip a meal or go on a special diet. Those fad diets only harm our bodies in the long run. Start your day with  a dash of lemon and honey added to lukewarm water. Drink lots  of water throughout the day. Reduce the intake of caffeine. Eat fresh fruits. Always prefer fruits rather than juices as fruits contain more fiber.

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Always wash your face morning and night. Maintain a cleansing ritual to get glowing skin. Never sleep with your make up on. Apply sunscreen generously and yes, even on a cloudy day.

Stay active. If the idea of exercise doesn’t appeal to you, find an activity that you love. Go for trekking, play football, join a dance class and what not. Opt for a fun workout that makes you forget about working out. Make exercise a fun experience.

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Sleep for at least eight hours.

When you eat well, sleep well and take care of your body; you elevate your life!

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So, keep elevating your life and stay happy cos’HAPPINESS IS YOU.

With love,

Shalu ❤

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